Question – Can I help change people around me with affirmations?

Many of my clients are people with families, some have family issues where there may be conflict etc.

The key thing to always focus on first is the invidual seeking help. You may remember the quote by Ghandi – “be the change you wish to see in this world”. Helping someone develop their confidence, self esteem, health, true wealth etc will not only benefit them but those surrounding them too. All my clients have developed core beliefs from their parents and if their parents have issues, limiting beliefs etc then its is very likely that this is passed on generation to generation.
It is vital to humanities evolution that we break the cycle of core beliefs which are damaging society.
This has to start with this individual. If they make their garden look amazing everyone will be more likely to be inspired and to listen to that person.
Affirmations are very powerful when spoken out loud..- the word of God is very powerful and you are part of God speaking its power. So its handy to have some focus on what to focus your attention on and speak about.
Affirmation are flexible with some creativity to focus on people around you too. They are like a form of prayer which again is the word of God/universe.
Here are some examples;

I love seeing my children happy and creative
I love seeing sarah healing very quickly or being healed now
I love my husband being attentive and loving
I love being attentive and loving
I feel joy at seeing my family working together as a wonderful team
I love seeing Ben more confident and strong

You get the idea.

Focus besides yourself can include people around you too. It a good idea to be more confident, motivated, peace loving yourself first though as a source of inspiration for others.

EFT for tapping wealth

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is absolutely brilliant at helping to manifest what you would like to experience more of. Just focus on what you would like to feel and just say it out loud whilst tapping the pressure points shown in this video. You can be as creative as you like!

Kick start your day

Every thought, feeling and action creates what you experience next.  When you wake up why not have a go at creating something new?

Here is a good list of things to do to start your day.

Laugh a lot

Instead of turning on the news and being filled with gloom, watch some comedy instead! I sometimes watch some Will & Grace or Frasier over breakfast and find myself laughing a lot which feels really good!  Body chemistry kicks in and the day is beginning with a smile on my face.                                                                                                                                                                         

Tap it in the shower   (keep it clean!)   

After giving yourself a good wash etc  why not use some tapping points on the face etc to manifest what you would like to experience during your day.  Use key words that resonate with you with what you are looking forward to happening that day.  I love saying things like “Bring on the most amazing day and I dare you to make it phenomenal”.  ” 

I also end the tapping with just a thanks for some of the great things I have and experience and will experience that day.  Self fulfilling prophecy here we come!

The Commute or walk to work    

If you are in a career that you are not enjoying so much then why not use the commute to explore and study something else?  There are so many books, audio cd’s and Mp3′s that could help you find and invest in something else for your life.  Why take up your time with newspapers or fictional books that do nothing to enhance your life?  Change your routine too, from the seat you sit in to the way you drive or walk.  Routines whilst they can feel nice and secure create a life where we become desensitized to life and nervous of change.

Kick start your day, no matter how tired you are with something different.  Just see, feel and hear what happens.    

You can do something different

Something I like to remind clients of is that no matter what their current experiences with thoughts, feelings or behaviours are the fact remains that they can do something different.  Something that will begin to create change.  Small steps over time are very productive.

Seeing a therapist helps to begin to  see and experience the world in different way.  Exploring and experimenting with your life allows for options, choices and various paths to open up for you to follow.

Which path is the right one?

Know one knows and it is very easy in hind sight to say that a wrong path is taken.  We owe a lot to all those “wrong” paths as everything we take for granted is based on trial and error.  Failure is something that appears to happen but brilliantly nudges us into directions that sometimes the mind was unaware of.  

Whatever path you take is the right one.  No matter what happens.  

Can I make the choice of paths clearer?  Of course!  The more you train your mind to be present and still, the more you explore your emotions and thoughts, the more you recognise that brilliant clear chime of attention from your intuition.  You still follow the right path though, the experience will just be different.

You are an amazing person.  Only the mind will convince you otherwise and thats just because its a little frightened.

Awww, bless it.

The Dangers of Positive Thinking

Years ago I was taught about the power of positive thinking and how it really could change your life.  It really does sort of make common sense doesn’t it?

Think positive and by seeing the good in life, feeling good about life and thinking great thoughts about the future will help you live a happy and fulfilled life.

The Law of Attraction then came into the spotlight and this pushed the positive thinking philosophy into a new light.  Films and books like The Secret, Cosmic Ordering and The Law of Attraction all promoted the power of positive thoughts.  The idea is that what you think and feel will attract what you experience in this life.  If you think about and feel wealthy then you will attract lots of wealth. Think healthy and you will attract great health and so on.

 I was a huge advocate of positive thinking back then, until my eyes were opened to actually how dangerous it can be.

 It started with noticing in Spiritual Forums and other spiritual websites that members were asking what to do about being around people who were negative.  These “negative” people were draining anyone who came near them and also attracting bad luck and drama into their lives. This was affecting the “positive” people who were asking how to get rid of these people from their lives or how to protect themselves from these terrible people.  Replies came thick and fast about energy shields, Guides with protective powers and even advice how to just keep away from them and cut them from their lives.

 Then I noticed clients coming to me with what seemed like positive thinking fear and fatigue.  This changed everything as they were masking their negative emotions with happy ones. This mask was exhausting to keep up day after day and was creating more anxiety and fear than the original emotion! 

The fear of negative thoughts and what that could create in their lives was terrifying, running from these emotions in the hope that they would just disappear wasn’t working. It was creating a volcano of trapped emotions waiting to erupt and that pressure was making them ill.

 Masking emotions with positive ones does not work. It can increase anxiety which can lead to depression which as we all know is not fun to experience at all.

 First of all it is worth addressing the Law of Attraction.  I do believe it is deeply misunderstood which is part of the problem for some stressed out people. 

Myth – “What you think you will attract”.

This is utter nonsense.  I know people who fantasise about the weirdest of things which are very imaginative and definitely not happening to them. Thank God this myth isn’t true or we would be experiencing the strangest world ever!

 Myth – “Negative people are draining”.

Better not be a therapist then as that would leave you looking like a wrinkled old prune after each client. (No funny comments please LOL) I sometimes see around 20 -30 people a week and in some cases they are going through a rough time and appear negative in thought and behaviour. Does their energy affect me? No. Have I got shields, guides and whatever protecting me? No.

It is all down to how I see the person I am working with.  I see them in a transitional phase of their life which tends to make people going through that part of life becoming stronger and wiser. I see the potential in that client and what they are capable of achieving. This is very exciting which means that I can work with my client in balance, helping them to remember who they truly are. I don’t see them as negative which makes all the difference.  If people feel they need protecting then beliefs will create a program in the mind which just reminds them in various situations how dangerous this world is.  This feeds anxiety.

If someone is appearing to be negative, ask yourself how could you help them?  It might be something simple like a hug, just listening to them or pointing them to a resource for help.  Treat others how you would like to be treated.

 Emotions are very scary for a large part of the population of earth.  People with distract themselves from any unfamiliar or uncomfortable feeling.  Yet the feeling can be so short and gone with seconds but the fight not to feel it has already begun prolonging the experience and transforming it to something else. 

 Exploring your feelings no matter how uncomfortable they feel will help you understand yourself and how your body reacts to an experience.  The effect seems to be that the emotion you didn’t want to feel literally begins to change whilst exploring it anyway and soon begins to vanish.

 Positive thoughts can be such a distraction and simply just mask what is going on within you.

 If you were unafraid of your emotions and knew that they all just pass on soon anyway, think about how this would change your life?

 Frustration

Anger

Jealousy

Boredom

Fear

Anxiety

Self loathing

Guilty

 These are just some of the emotions people will do anything to change instead of exploring them.  How often when bored do people turn to food or the television to change how they feel?  They then can feel guilty or unfulfilled which leads to more emotional upset and the cycles continue.

It is ok to have a negative thought or feeling.  By acknowledging that it is there and feeling the feeling, it will begin to change and do something different.

Where is the feeling?  Sensations? Intensity? Explore!

The choice becomes do I want to hold onto this feeling or not?

 Shall I just let it go now?

 Breathe it out.

 See and feel what’s changed.

If it has not then, that is ok.  It will do so soon.

 This is much better to do than mask emotions with positive thoughts.  Emotions don’t like to be buried and will just bite you on the bum when it can later!

 You are capable of a huge range of emotions and life will bring most of those up now and then. End your war with emotions and allow yourself to experience them.  You are not your emotions either.  No-one is a happy or sad person, they are much more than that.

EFT (tapping) NLP and Emotrance are great ways of releasing an emotion when you are ready to do so.  Check out some of the videos on my YouTube channel or contact me for a treatment either though Skype or in person.  Click the wierd looking link  (still working out how to make it say Life Doctor LOL)#mce_temp_url#

Bad Science

I have been reading this week a shocking book called Bad Science by Ben Goldacre.  Wow, all I can say is this book is a huge wake up call for anyone who has subscribed to the alternative health side of things for healing ailments or keeping one healthy.  What is a shame is how the media, pharmaceutical industry, famous nutritionists and the alternative health industry are cherry picking information from studies, trials and tests. They then promote the science behind therapies, drug effects and nutritional information as fact when if someone like Ben Goldacre takes the time to do the research to see if true…finds it to be highly questionable and in a lot of cases very misleading and false.

It is quite shameful how these industries are just promoting their stuff to just make money and they make an absolute fortune, what is even worse is how heavy handed they get when questioned about the credibility of their research and the science behind their claims.

I personally have spent probably a small fortune in the past on various books and vitamins from these so called professionals only to find out that their claims are wildy unsubstantiated and false.  

Trust is an important factor here when it comes to listening to people who appear to be professionals giving advice which in fact could damage your health.  It really is easy not to trust the large pharmaceuticals but not to easy for some to not trust the nutritionists who frighten people with dodgy facts about diet today.  If we all took the advice of one nutritionist we would be rattling down the road with all the pills they advise to take.

What I think is brilliant though is that people are waking up to the spin put out from the media and these industries and asking for evidence to support their claims.  

I work in the spiritual world too which I also believe needs a clean up from all the misinformation out there designed to get people to part with their cash.  We might not like what rises to the surface but would’nt we want to know the truth?

Actually this was brought to my attention over the past few weeks when clients or people I teach said they didn’t want to know the truth as they were happy to stay in their bubbles of ignorance.   One friend said “I feel more comfortable with what I believe than the truth”.

Eventually we will all want to know the truth and there will always be people who want to stay in there bubbles which is fair enough,  they cannot stay there for too long as the truth always beckons.

I would really recommend giving the book Bad Science a read as it really does open you eyes to how science is manipulated to make us believe in the manipulators agenda.

Fortune Telling Liar

Diana has in her head a fortune telling liar who is determined to cast predictions about her future.  In fact this fortune telling liar is so convincing that Diana stops going for those goals or experiences which the fortune teller predicts will end in failure and rejection.  ”It is safer to just stay where you are”.  This has been going on for years and whilst it has kept Diana “safe” Diana is depressed and fed up of feeling anxious about her future.

 So what can Diana do and how can Diana differentiate between her intuition and the fortune teller when it comes to decision making?

 

Does this sound familiar to you?

 This is a very common problem which affects millions of people daily, the mind lies to them daily and this is literally robbing them of their health and sanity.  

 The good news is that they do not have to do this anymore.  There is a choice and they can release the liar within and begin to live the lives they truly deserve.   

 So why does the mind lie like this?

 Sitting in your mind is an area of the brain called the amgydala and it’s about the size and shape of an almond.

This very small area of the brain is responsible for regulating emotions which of course includes fear, anxiety, anger, avoidance and depression.  

 It is here that the mind starts processing experiences and thoughts from the future and fires signals for chemical reactions which include cortisol histamine and adrenaline which can feel very unpleasant.  This is for a flight or fight situation which in truth is rarely needed today as here in the western world we have never been so safe, yet the mind convinces people that they are in danger.  The danger is actually…..just your feelings.

 It is trying to protect you from feeling emotions / feelings you do not like to feel!

 Think how you feel when feeling scared, rejected, embarrassed or feeling being made a fool of?  Some people can just laugh this off but many can’t and the thought of feeling these feelings can be so intense that panic attacks can soon follow.   The amgydala adds to this the fear of death which may sound extreme but it is such an ancient part of the brain that through your evolution from fish to lizard to mammal kept you wary of danger. It has now gone abit overboard in its efficiency!

 The mind is a very powerful tool and can heal and change your life literally!  You can work towards helping your mind realise that you are safe and that whilst it is lovely that you are protected, it really is not needed in certain situations.  You can address your mind when you know it is lying and without being judgmental or frustrated, just let it know that it really is not in danger.  The predictions are just that…predictions and as the future has not been created yet, they simply are not true.

 Work on becoming more confident.  This can be done in various ways by experimenting continually with what you normally avoid.  See how far you can go with your experiments.  For example:

 Diana’s mind says not to go in the lift, as she will get stuck.

Diana decides to experiment by going in a lift.

Without going up and down, Diana just walks in and out of the lift at first.

When Diana is ready she goes up to another floor.

Diana’s mind is still telling her she will get stuck and also that the lift will plummet down the shaft with Diana dying in a hideous way.

The truth is that the chances of that happening are phenomenal and she cannot even remember reading or hearing about anyone being hurt in a lift.

Over time experimenting Diana’s mind stops trying to create lies about lifts.

Time to move to other areas.

 See a good therapist to help you address the lies within the mind and how to keep rational!  You really can work with the mind and develop that powerful intuition to let you know of true danger and not the false illusions created by the mind.  Developing your confidence and self esteem is vital for helping the mind know that you can laugh of what we label as rejection or failure and do something different instead.