Judging people

An interesting article on how we judge others.

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How we decide

A brilliant short documentary on how we decide.

Pain and emotions

This link takes you to a fascinating article about pain and emotions. Enjoy!

Question – Can I help change people around me with affirmations?

Many of my clients are people with families, some have family issues where there may be conflict etc.

The key thing to always focus on first is the invidual seeking help. You may remember the quote by Ghandi – “be the change you wish to see in this world”. Helping someone develop their confidence, self esteem, health, true wealth etc will not only benefit them but those surrounding them too. All my clients have developed core beliefs from their parents and if their parents have issues, limiting beliefs etc then its is very likely that this is passed on generation to generation.
It is vital to humanities evolution that we break the cycle of core beliefs which are damaging society.
This has to start with this individual. If they make their garden look amazing everyone will be more likely to be inspired and to listen to that person.
Affirmations are very powerful when spoken out loud..- the word of God is very powerful and you are part of God speaking its power. So its handy to have some focus on what to focus your attention on and speak about.
Affirmation are flexible with some creativity to focus on people around you too. They are like a form of prayer which again is the word of God/universe.
Here are some examples;

I love seeing my children happy and creative
I love seeing sarah healing very quickly or being healed now
I love my husband being attentive and loving
I love being attentive and loving
I feel joy at seeing my family working together as a wonderful team
I love seeing Ben more confident and strong

You get the idea.

Focus besides yourself can include people around you too. It a good idea to be more confident, motivated, peace loving yourself first though as a source of inspiration for others.

EFT for tapping wealth

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is absolutely brilliant at helping to manifest what you would like to experience more of. Just focus on what you would like to feel and just say it out loud whilst tapping the pressure points shown in this video. You can be as creative as you like!

Media Hypnosis

This week a friend called and told me they were going to vote Green due to the “disgusting” behaviour of MP’s and their expenses which is currently in the news 24/7.  I asked why the Green vote and what their policies were to attract his attention.  They didn’t know what they were and mumbled something about the environment.  They had been hypnotised by the media to believe all Mp’s were all corrupt.

Yes the Mp’s that have been caught buying duck ponds or paying mortgages that no longer exist are silly folk who will pay for that but let us get into perspective that out of 600 MP’s only a small minority have broken any rules or using our money paid for something within the rules but is rather extravagant.

The media would have you think otherwise.  Each with their own agenda and intention to manipulate the news so you the consumer buys in to their idea of what they would like you to think.  Mp’s and anyone else in the public eye are constantly at the medias mercy and they can change someones career or life with just a headline.  

Look at how much the credit crunch has been fuelled my irresponsible media speculation designed to get people emotionally fearful about the future.  Presenters constantly asking people if they are worried and should they be worried.  This in my opinion is causing people to be more cautious when it comes to spending.  Business’s which rely on steady money flowing in suddenly are short as due to media speculation people hold back buying their goods.  Jobs are lost and business’s close down which reinforces the speculation.  Not fun at all for those who are without work.  

It does seem rather odd that we rely on the media to be informed and yet if you ask most people they seem to be aware that most news is not even true.  Anything speculating about the future is just that speculation and yet some people act as if it is fact.   You can see it in the media today how they influence who is going to be in Government next or frighten people with the next big health scare with dodgy experts and science quoted as if it were reliable.  (MMR Vaccine was a media invention and look at how people view child vaccinations these days).

Being aware how suggestable we all are can help to hold onto a more open view of what is being reported.  There is no shame in being suggestable by the way, we all are influenced through various sights, sounds, feelings subconsciously and consciously.  If a new craze begins think about how it can pull you to doing it even if it appears stupid and fruitless to you. (facebook, twitter, tamigotchi’s, iPhone apps).  

The media doesn’t seem accountable to anyone and there is never a national outrage at the national newspapers or channels for circulation lies. Maybe there should be?   Someone suggested promoting positive news sites but to me that is just as bad as its still glossing over the truth of what is happening and the different perspectives involved.

How often do you watch or read the news and how does that shape the way you see and experience the world?

Anxious clients can often be a “need to know” person.  Watching a variety of newsbroadcasts during the day to keep up with what is going on.  This feeds their anxiety as the world is often painted as a dangerous place with statistics on crime manipulated or headlines screaming danger week after week.  This hypnotises them with powerful suggestions which at the end of the day does not feel nice at all and prevents them living the life they would like to live.

If it does not feel good to watch or read.

Do something else.

You can do something different

Something I like to remind clients of is that no matter what their current experiences with thoughts, feelings or behaviours are the fact remains that they can do something different.  Something that will begin to create change.  Small steps over time are very productive.

Seeing a therapist helps to begin to  see and experience the world in different way.  Exploring and experimenting with your life allows for options, choices and various paths to open up for you to follow.

Which path is the right one?

Know one knows and it is very easy in hind sight to say that a wrong path is taken.  We owe a lot to all those “wrong” paths as everything we take for granted is based on trial and error.  Failure is something that appears to happen but brilliantly nudges us into directions that sometimes the mind was unaware of.  

Whatever path you take is the right one.  No matter what happens.  

Can I make the choice of paths clearer?  Of course!  The more you train your mind to be present and still, the more you explore your emotions and thoughts, the more you recognise that brilliant clear chime of attention from your intuition.  You still follow the right path though, the experience will just be different.

You are an amazing person.  Only the mind will convince you otherwise and thats just because its a little frightened.

Awww, bless it.

The Dangers of Positive Thinking

Years ago I was taught about the power of positive thinking and how it really could change your life.  It really does sort of make common sense doesn’t it?

Think positive and by seeing the good in life, feeling good about life and thinking great thoughts about the future will help you live a happy and fulfilled life.

The Law of Attraction then came into the spotlight and this pushed the positive thinking philosophy into a new light.  Films and books like The Secret, Cosmic Ordering and The Law of Attraction all promoted the power of positive thoughts.  The idea is that what you think and feel will attract what you experience in this life.  If you think about and feel wealthy then you will attract lots of wealth. Think healthy and you will attract great health and so on.

 I was a huge advocate of positive thinking back then, until my eyes were opened to actually how dangerous it can be.

 It started with noticing in Spiritual Forums and other spiritual websites that members were asking what to do about being around people who were negative.  These “negative” people were draining anyone who came near them and also attracting bad luck and drama into their lives. This was affecting the “positive” people who were asking how to get rid of these people from their lives or how to protect themselves from these terrible people.  Replies came thick and fast about energy shields, Guides with protective powers and even advice how to just keep away from them and cut them from their lives.

 Then I noticed clients coming to me with what seemed like positive thinking fear and fatigue.  This changed everything as they were masking their negative emotions with happy ones. This mask was exhausting to keep up day after day and was creating more anxiety and fear than the original emotion! 

The fear of negative thoughts and what that could create in their lives was terrifying, running from these emotions in the hope that they would just disappear wasn’t working. It was creating a volcano of trapped emotions waiting to erupt and that pressure was making them ill.

 Masking emotions with positive ones does not work. It can increase anxiety which can lead to depression which as we all know is not fun to experience at all.

 First of all it is worth addressing the Law of Attraction.  I do believe it is deeply misunderstood which is part of the problem for some stressed out people. 

Myth – “What you think you will attract”.

This is utter nonsense.  I know people who fantasise about the weirdest of things which are very imaginative and definitely not happening to them. Thank God this myth isn’t true or we would be experiencing the strangest world ever!

 Myth – “Negative people are draining”.

Better not be a therapist then as that would leave you looking like a wrinkled old prune after each client. (No funny comments please LOL) I sometimes see around 20 -30 people a week and in some cases they are going through a rough time and appear negative in thought and behaviour. Does their energy affect me? No. Have I got shields, guides and whatever protecting me? No.

It is all down to how I see the person I am working with.  I see them in a transitional phase of their life which tends to make people going through that part of life becoming stronger and wiser. I see the potential in that client and what they are capable of achieving. This is very exciting which means that I can work with my client in balance, helping them to remember who they truly are. I don’t see them as negative which makes all the difference.  If people feel they need protecting then beliefs will create a program in the mind which just reminds them in various situations how dangerous this world is.  This feeds anxiety.

If someone is appearing to be negative, ask yourself how could you help them?  It might be something simple like a hug, just listening to them or pointing them to a resource for help.  Treat others how you would like to be treated.

 Emotions are very scary for a large part of the population of earth.  People with distract themselves from any unfamiliar or uncomfortable feeling.  Yet the feeling can be so short and gone with seconds but the fight not to feel it has already begun prolonging the experience and transforming it to something else. 

 Exploring your feelings no matter how uncomfortable they feel will help you understand yourself and how your body reacts to an experience.  The effect seems to be that the emotion you didn’t want to feel literally begins to change whilst exploring it anyway and soon begins to vanish.

 Positive thoughts can be such a distraction and simply just mask what is going on within you.

 If you were unafraid of your emotions and knew that they all just pass on soon anyway, think about how this would change your life?

 Frustration

Anger

Jealousy

Boredom

Fear

Anxiety

Self loathing

Guilty

 These are just some of the emotions people will do anything to change instead of exploring them.  How often when bored do people turn to food or the television to change how they feel?  They then can feel guilty or unfulfilled which leads to more emotional upset and the cycles continue.

It is ok to have a negative thought or feeling.  By acknowledging that it is there and feeling the feeling, it will begin to change and do something different.

Where is the feeling?  Sensations? Intensity? Explore!

The choice becomes do I want to hold onto this feeling or not?

 Shall I just let it go now?

 Breathe it out.

 See and feel what’s changed.

If it has not then, that is ok.  It will do so soon.

 This is much better to do than mask emotions with positive thoughts.  Emotions don’t like to be buried and will just bite you on the bum when it can later!

 You are capable of a huge range of emotions and life will bring most of those up now and then. End your war with emotions and allow yourself to experience them.  You are not your emotions either.  No-one is a happy or sad person, they are much more than that.

EFT (tapping) NLP and Emotrance are great ways of releasing an emotion when you are ready to do so.  Check out some of the videos on my YouTube channel or contact me for a treatment either though Skype or in person.  Click the wierd looking link  (still working out how to make it say Life Doctor LOL)#mce_temp_url#